A Path Unwinding

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psyducker:

psyducker:

how do gay guys feel when they get oddly turned on by a woman?

sexually frustraighted

knowledgeequalsblackpower:

Valerie, the first Black female cartoon character on a regular Saturday morning cartoon.

knowledgeequalsblackpower:

Valerie, the first Black female cartoon character on a regular Saturday morning cartoon.

(Source: deliciouslydemure)

(Source: infraromance)

You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

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an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

(via recoveringasian)

The notion that single parented homes are “broken”

howtobeterrell:

Because there’s no male figure in the home is deeply misogynist and sexist

I remember the first time I heard that. It was when I went to boarding school for other ‘broken’ kids like me. People threw this around without ever thinking of what they were saying. I would always stand there thinking ‘why am I broken? We had to leave Dad? Why is this my fault? What’s so broken about my Mom? Or did she do something wrong?’ it caused me so much confusion and frankly contributed to a lot of my own self hate. By saying this to kids like me you are teaching us that there is something wrong with us. Not our situation, us. You are teaching us that we are broken thing, we need fixed and it’s our job. Fuck that and fuck who ever came up with this. I want my childhood back. And still people don’t understand why I hate this phrasing.

fiti-vation:

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nitramaraho:

northfalls:

”Do I have an intimidating face? Not many men come up to me and give me one-liners.” — Natalie Dormer for GQ Magazine (x)

ayy

  • French: This chair is feminine! "La Chaise!"
  • Italian: This chair is feminine! "La sedia!"
  • German: This chair is masculine! "Der Stuhl!"
  • English: This chair is a fucking object, I don't see a skirt or a pair of trousers anywhere on its cold hard surface, you people are fucking insane.
  • Japanese: If you don't pronounce chair exactly right, you'll end up saying testicles instead.
princess-mishaps-palace:

cooper has a valuable contribution to the abortion arguement 

princess-mishaps-palace:

cooper has a valuable contribution to the abortion arguement 

Cinderella never asked for a prince. She asked for a night off and a dress.

- Kiera Cass (via maxonshreaves)

killdiobrando:

okuyasuofficial:

okuyasuofficial:

honey, im homo

welcome back queer

How was your gay?

(Source: perfectiontales)

I just know dyke drama when I see it.

(Source: orangeskins)

Describe a bad blowjob

Anonymous

twizzlerheathen:

tolzmannia:

clitorisky:

sarcasm-a-blog:

avengersonna:

hellobejules:

avengersonna:

avengersonna:

Just imagine the American version of doctor who

But dude

but what would the TARDIS be? I’ve never seen a phone box in America.

Porta potty

image

Found it

Doctor Loo in the Turdis.

This is America what is a loo

Try inferring from the context clues given to you.